Let’s talk about one of my absolute favorite under-the-radar sex positions that completely changed the game for me and so many of the folks I coach: the pretzel dip position.
Now, if you’re thinking, “That sounds cute, but what even is that?” you’re not alone. I stumbled into this move while looking for something that didn’t require Cirque du Soleil-level flexibility, but still delivered deep, connected pleasure. And let me tell you: once you’ve dipped into the pretzel, there’s no going back.
If partnered sex ever feels repetitive or if you’re navigating sex with a plus-size body or physical limitations, this position is a total gem because it combines intimacy, accessibility, and a spicy angle that hits all the right spots – literally.
So grab a pillow (trust me on this), get comfy, and let’s dive into your new favorite position.
What Is the Pretzel Dip Position?
Origin and Popularity
The pretzel dip position got its charming name because, well, it kind of looks like someone twisted up halfway through a yoga class – but don’t worry, it’s much easier than it sounds. It first gained traction in the mainstream thanks to sex educators and kama sutra-style position guides that aimed to showcase interesting penetrative angles with one partner primarily on their side.
But it became a favorite in the body-positive and adaptive intimacy circles (where I do most of my work), because it’s one of the best examples of an inclusive, low-impact position that still brings the heat. And trust me, once people try it, it quickly becomes a bedroom staple.
Visual Description and Anatomy Involved
Picture this: one partner lies on their side while the other kneels or straddles them, lifting the top leg slightly to allow for penetration. It creates this beautiful twist in the body – hence the pretzel – but without forcing uncomfortable angles or serious core strength.
It allows for deeper penetration than classic spooning, more face-to-face intimacy than doggy style, and better hip mobility than missionary. Plus, it works with all kinds of genital combinations – penis/vagina, penis/anus, or using strap-ons or toys. It’s incredibly versatile and beautifully supportive.
How to Get Into the Pretzel Dip Position
Step-by-Step Guide
Here’s how I walk couples through it when I’m coaching them in person:
- Start with one partner (the receiving partner) lying on their side, facing the giver.
- Bend the receiving partner’s knees, like they’re settling in to watch Netflix – comfy and relaxed.
- The giver then kneels between or beside the bottom partner’s legs, lifting one of the receiver’s legs over their thigh or hip.
- Adjust bodies until penetration feels natural. Play with angle and height by moving hips or using pillows for support.
That’s it! From this setup, the top partner has great control over rhythm and depth, while the bottom partner gets to relax and receive – or stay engaged with their own movements and pleasure if they choose.
Recommended Variations for Comfort
If standard pretzel feels too tight or twisted, I always recommend:
- Adding a wedge pillow under the bottom partner’s hips for elevation
- Placing a rolled towel or yoga bolster under the lifted leg for support
- Keeping the receiving partner’s bottom leg extended if knee bending is uncomfortable
- Experimenting with face-to-face or rear-entry variation, depending on comfort and intimacy level
Remember: the goal is never to copy a magazine photo perfectly – it’s to make the position work for you and your unique bodies.
Why People Love This Position
Benefits for Penetration and Stimulation
This is where the magic happens. The pretzel dip offers a phenomenal angle for G-spot or P-spot stimulation depending on anatomy. Because of the twist in the lower body, the pelvis opens up, allowing easy access to those pleasure-rich zones.
Also, there’s natural body contact here – thighs, bellies, torsos – which can feel so grounding and sexy. It’s stimulating, but not jarring. Perfect for deep, slow strokes or even gentle thrusting with toys.
Power Dynamics and Intimacy Factors
This position is great for playing with dominance and submission in very subtle ways. The giver can completely control tempo and depth, or you can reverse roles by having the bottom partner grind, direct, or instruct.
But what I love most? Eye contact. Handholding. Whispering. This position makes space for all that – body to body, breath to breath. That’s not just sex. That’s connection.
Tips for Success and Enhanced Pleasure
Communication and Consent
Always start with a check-in. “Do you want to try something a little twisty but super cozy?” is a great way to bring it up. Consent doesn’t kill the mood – it creates safety and trust so we can let go and actually feel pleasure.
As you move into the position, talk about comfort level. Ask, “How’s that feel?” or “Want a pillow under your hip?” These little dialogues matter.
Ideal Conditions: Flexibility, Support, and Pace
You do not – I repeat, do not – have to be flexible to enjoy this. But a little prep goes a long way. Keep pillows handy (under the hips or back), go slower than you think you need to, and if it helps, try transitioning into the pretzel dip from spooning or missionary instead of starting cold.
And yes, lube is non-negotiable. I recommend a quality, long-lasting silicone-based lube especially if there’s any friction or dryness. If you’re using latex barriers, go water-based.
Incorporating Toys or Accessories
Ohhh yes – this position is toy-friendly!
- Use a bullet vibrator between bodies for clit, penis base, or perineum stimulation.
- Try a strap-on for gender-affirming play or pegging, especially using a harness that allows control while kneeling.
- Slip in a butt plug beforehand for added fullness during penetration.
- Use a Liberator wedge or ramp under the receiving partner to boost hip height and movement ease.
Make it playful. Make it yours.
Common Challenges and How to Overcome Them
Discomfort or Awkwardness
If you feel twisted, squished, or suddenly acutely aware of any cramp, pause. It’s fine. Sexy doesn’t mean perfect. Shift your bodies, use more lube, or go back to something more open like side-by-side spoons, then come back in refreshed.
Feeling awkward? That’s part of the adventure. Laugh, breathe, stay present. No one gets points for choreography – we’re here for connection.
Body Type Considerations
As a plus-size person myself, I can’t stress this enough: the pretzel dip is a gift for bigger bodies. It allows one partner to relax fully, while the other navigates movement freely without needing to bear full body weight or be ultra-flexible.
But even in this position, larger thighs or bellies might create unexpected angles. Use positioning pillows, shift legs further apart, or tilt hips – it’s worth experimenting until it feels just right. Don’t force anything. Adapt it. Own it.
Who Will Enjoy the Pretzel Dip Most?
Same-Sex vs. Heterosexual Dynamics
This position works beautifully across all gender pairings. In same-sex dynamics, particularly with vulva-to-vulva or penis-to-penis contact, the pretzel dip offers texture, grinding, and close intimacy.
For queer couples using toys or strap-ons, it allows full control of movement with minimal exertion. You can explore hands-free pleasure or mutual touch with ease. It’s not gendered – it’s versatile and affirming.
Beginner vs. Experienced Lovers
While it might sound complex at first, the pretzel dip is actually beginner-friendly. Think of it as a next-level spooning position – comforting, intimate, and surprisingly easy to enter.
For experienced lovers, it adds freshness and opens doors for experimentation with angles, kinks, or accessories. Whether it’s your fifth time having sex or your five-hundredth, this position delivers.
Final Thoughts on the Pretzel Dip Position
Building Confidence and Embracing Exploration
Here’s the real talk: amazing sex isn’t about how many positions you can name – it’s about finding what feels good in your body, with your partner, in your time.
The pretzel dip lets you explore pleasure, vulnerability, and creativity without pressure. It says, “Yes, you absolutely get to feel sexy – right now – exactly as you are.” And as your body-positive guide, that’s the message I want ringing in your ears every time you hit the sheets.
Making It Part of Your Sexual Repertoire
Add the pretzel dip to your rotation not as a stunt to check off, but as a comforting, sexy, deeply sensual way to connect. Keep returning to it. Notice how your body responds differently over time. Layer in massage, movement, or roleplay.
However you claim it, just promise me this: make space for preferences, play, and every gorgeous ounce of your pleasure.
Because friend, pleasure is your birthright – and the pretzel dip might just be your new favorite way to claim it.
