Let’s be real: anal sex is one of those topics that still makes people blush, even though it’s totally normal, deeply intimate, and incredibly pleasurable – when done with care, consent, and the right tools. I’ve guided so many people on this journey, and here’s what I’ve learned: knowing how to use an anal training kit can completely change your experience from intimidating to empowering.
Whether you’re curious, prepping for some backside exploration, or simply want to feel more confident in your body, I promise you’re not alone. I’ve been there, too – nervous, unsure, full of questions. The good news is, with the right mindset and a well-designed anal training kit, you can move at your pace and make it feel not just accessible, but deliciously affirming.
This guide is everything I wish I had when I started. Zero judgment. Total body positivity. And a whole lot of step-by-step wisdom to help you feel safe, sexy, and seen on your anal exploration journey.
What Is an Anal Training Kit and Why Use One?
Understanding the Purpose of Anal Training
Anal training is a gradual, gentle process of getting your body used to the sensation of anal penetration. It’s not about pain or pushing through. It’s about building comfort, pleasure, and trust in yourself over time.
Our bodies (especially plus-size or differently-abled ones) deserve care and preparation. That’s where an anal training kit comes in – offering several graduated plugs that help your muscles adapt without overstretching or shocking your system.
Common Components in a Kit
Most anal training kits include 3 to 5 butt plugs in increasing sizes, made of silicone or another body-safe material. Some come with extras like a carrying bag or suction bases.
Here’s what you’ll typically find:
- Small starter plug (usually under 1 inch diameter)
- Medium and large plugs (for progression)
- Weighted or vibrating options (in advanced kits)
- Tapered tips and flared bases (for safety)
Preparing to Use an Anal Training Kit
Mental Readiness and Body Positivity
This is not just physical – it’s emotional too. Before you ever insert a plug, give yourself permission to explore with zero shame. Body positivity starts with honoring your curiosity, not punishing your desire.
I always remind my readers: anal training isn’t just for “those” kinds of people. It’s for you – your pleasure, your empowerment, your boundaries. Go in with patience, self-compassion, and maybe a mirror to help you feel more connected to your body.
Hygiene and Cleanliness
Clean toys, clean hands, clean space. That’s the trifecta. Before and after every session, wash your plugs with warm water and a gentle toy cleaner or unscented soap. You can also use gloves or finger cots for hygiene if desired.
A quick rinse or enema with warm water can help if you want to feel extra secure, but it’s not required. Your body is beautiful as is.
Choosing the Right Environment
Choose a quiet, cozy, clean place where you won’t be interrupted. Dim the lights. Play some music. Make this a sensual self-care ritual rather than something clinical or rushed.
Some plus-size folks (myself included) find it more comfortable to lie on their side with one leg up or prop a pillow under their lower back for easier access and less pressure.
Selecting the Right Starter Plug
Size Progression Explained
Start small. If your kit has three plugs, the tiniest one is your best friend. You don’t have to get to the biggest plug right away – or ever. The goal is comfort and control.
Each step up in size gives your sphincter a chance to naturally stretch and relax over time. Think of it like stretching for yoga: slow, steady, and intentional.
Material and Shape Considerations
Body-safe silicone is what I swear by – it’s non-porous, easy to clean, and gentle. Tapered plugs are great for insertion, and flared bases keep everything safely in place.
Avoid jelly or mystery-material toys. They might look cute, but they’re often unsafe and hard to clean. When in doubt: silicone, flared, and preferably with a flexible neck for comfort.
How to Use an Anal Training Kit Step-by-Step
Lubrication: Why It’s Essential
Here’s the rule: lube, lube, and more lube. The anus doesn’t self-lubricate, so abundant high-quality water-based or hybrid lube is an absolute must. Silicone lube is slick and long-lasting, but check toy compatibility first (some silicone toys don’t play nice with silicone lube).
Don’t be shy here. I apply to both the plug and the entrance, and I reapply mid-session if needed. Watery mess? Worth it for comfort and safety.
Insertion Tips for Beginners
Take a deep breath. Relax your jaw (seriously, it helps your bum relax too). Rest the tip of the plug against your entrance and allow your body to welcome it in gradually. Don’t push. Use gentle, shallow circular motions if needed.
Once it’s in, take a few minutes to breathe and adjust. Walk around. Wiggle. See how your body feels. If anything hurts, remove it slowly and try again another day.
How Long to Use Each Plug
I usually recommend starting with 5-10 minutes per session, gradually increasing over time. Your body will guide you. Use each plug multiple times over several days or weeks before moving up.
Consistency matters more than speed. You don’t have to get it “right” the first time. Tiny progress is still progress.
When and How to Progress to the Next Size
Once you can comfortably insert, wear, and even move around with your current plug, you may be ready to step up. Ideally, the next size should go in with some gentle resistance but no pain.
You might go back and forth between sizes as you build up. That’s totally okay. Trust your body’s signals.
Listening to Your Body and Practicing Aftercare
Signs You Need to Pause or Scale Back
If you feel burning, sharp pain, or discomfort that lingers, stop immediately. Anal training should never hurt. Go back to a smaller plug or take a few days off. It’s not a race.
Some soreness is normal, but pain is your body saying, “Whoa – not yet.” And that’s something to honor.
Aftercare for Comfort and Safety
After your session, gently remove the plug, clean it thoroughly, and take care of your body. Apply a warm compress or soothing aloe-based product if you feel sore.
Drink water. Stretch. Do whatever feels nurturing. Anal play can be surprisingly emotional, so give yourself space afterward to unwind.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Skipping Sizes or Rushing the Process
I get it – you’re excited. But please don’t jump from the smallest to the largest plug. That’s a surefire way to feel discomfort or lose confidence.
This is about gentle expansion, not breakneck conquering. Your anus prefers slow seduction, not surprise guests.
Using the Wrong Type of Lube
Lube is not optional. And not all lubes are created equal. Stay away from anything with glycerin, numbing agents, or strong fragrances. Those can irritate or hide pain – which is the opposite of what you want here.
High-quality water-based lube is the safest bet, especially with beginner kits.
Ignoring Pain or Discomfort
Listen – pain is not a badge of courage. It’s a red flag.
If something doesn’t feel right, there’s no shame in stepping back, regrouping, or even asking a trusted partner or professional for help. Your pleasure deserves protection.
Tips for Building Confidence and Enhancing Pleasure
Incorporating Breathwork and Relaxation
Deep belly breaths can completely change how your body responds. I sometimes do a 4-count inhale and 6-count exhale to keep tension low and sensation high.
Soothing touch on other parts of your body can also help welcome the feeling, making it more arousing and less clinical.
Adding Vibration or Partner Play (Optional)
Once you’re comfortable solo, adding vibration can feel *amazing* – just make sure your toy is anal-safe and has a flared base.
Or invite a partner in at your comfort level. Let them watch, guide, or assist in your training using a safe word and mutual respect. Communication is lubrication, friend.
Frequently Asked Questions About Anal Training Kits
Can Anyone Use an Anal Training Kit?
Yes! Anal training is for all genders, all body types, all orientations. It’s not about being “into kinky stuff” – it’s about understanding and enjoying your body from the inside out.
How Often Should I Train?
2-3 times a week is a solid rhythm, but you can train more or less based on goals and comfort. Some people train daily, others once a week. You do you.
Is Anal Training Safe Long-Term?
Absolutely, as long as you’re using body-safe plugs, listening to your body, and not overstretching too quickly. I’ve had folks train comfortably for months or years as part of their ongoing sex lives with no issues.
Final Thoughts
Learning how to use an anal training kit isn’t just about sex – it’s about trust. Trusting your body, your pleasure, your boundaries.
You deserve to explore your backside with confidence, comfort, and care – no matter your size, shape, or history. So be gentle with yourself. Be consistent. And most of all, be proud of every inch of progress.
Your pleasure is valid. Your body is amazing. And I hope this guide gets you one (very sexy) step closer to feeling that deep in your bones.
