I’ll be real with you: when I first started exploring the idea of how to give yourself a blowjob, I thought it was one of those mythical feats only found on the dark corners of the internet or whispered about in locker rooms. But the reality is a lot deeper – and way more fascinating – than a dare or fantasy.
If you’re here, you’re curious. Maybe you’re wondering if it’s physically possible. Maybe you’re just exploring your body in new and delicious ways. Either way, I want you to know this: you’re not weird, you’re not alone, and you’re definitely not broken if it doesn’t work right away – or at all.
As someone who teaches body-positive pleasure techniques for all types of bodies (yes, including bigger ones like mine), I’m here to break down the truth with zero shame, loads of support, and practical steps to help you explore this unique experience on your own terms.
Understanding Autofellatio: What It Is and Why People Try It
The Appeal and Curiosity Behind Self-Oral Sex
Autofellatio, or self-blowjob, is exactly what it sounds like: pleasuring yourself orally. It’s not just a wild sexual stunt – for many, it’s part of a deeper journey of curiosity, body ownership, and pushing personal boundaries.
Some people explore it for the physical sensation. Others are turned on by the idea of total self-sufficiency in pleasure. And some, like me, just wanted to see if their body could actually do it. There’s no right reason.
Myths vs. Reality
Myth: Only circus-level contortionists or adult film stars can do it. Reality: While extreme flexibility helps, many more people are capable than you might think – especially with dedicated stretching and patience.
Myth: It’s unhealthy or dangerous. Reality: With proper warm-ups and care, it’s no more risky than any other sexual exploration. The key is listening to your body.
Can You Really Do It? Physical Requirements and Limitations
Flexibility, Anatomy, and Body Types
Let me be honest: yes, body mechanics matter. Not everyone will be able to fully perform autofellatio, and that’s okay. This isn’t about achievement. It’s about exploration.
Here’s what plays a role:
- Spinal and hamstring flexibility
- Penis length (longer shafts make accessibility easier)
- Neck mobility
- Abdominal compression ability (think yoga forward folds)
Who Might Have Better Success
Generally speaking, if you’re already flexible (i.e., you can touch your toes easily or bend deeply at the waist), you’re starting with an advantage.
That said, my plus-size clients and readers have often surprised themselves with what’s possible after consistent stretching and learning safer positions. You don’t need a dancer’s body. You just need patience and persistence.
Preparing Your Body: Flexibility, Stretching, and Safety
Recommended Stretches and Yoga Poses
If you’re serious about trying to see if autofellatio is possible for you, a flexibility routine is step one. These are non negotiable:
- Seated Forward Fold (Paschimottanasana) – to stretch hamstrings and lower back
- Happy Baby Pose (Ananda Balasana) – hip opener, good for beginners
- Camel Pose (Ustrasana) – increases spinal flexibility gently
- Reclined Leg Stretch with Strap – helps leg flexibility without strain
Start with a daily 15-minute stretch session. You’ll see progress within weeks.
Listening to Your Body and Avoiding Injury
This cannot be stressed enough: never force it. Sharp pain, dizziness, numbness – these are red flags. Discomfort while stretching is normal. Pain is not.
Small progress is still progress. Some days you’ll feel tight. Other days, more open. Be consistent, but always kind to your body.
Techniques for Attempting Self-Oral Stimulation
Positions to Try
Here are the top 3 positions I and many others have tried when attempting autofellatio:
- Reclined Wall Position: Lie on your back, lift your legs over your head toward the wall. Use pillows to support your neck and upper back. It’s a great beginner position.
- Seated Forward Lean: Sit on a firm cushion and bend forward as far as possible while supporting your body with your hands. Great for controlled movement.
- Sofa Edge Fold: Sit at the edge of a couch or bed and lean forward between your knees. Slightly elevate your hips with a cushion if needed.
Start slowly with each position. Try different angles, hip placements, and breathing techniques as you go.
Breathing and Relaxation Methods
Tension is your mortal enemy when trying autofellatio. Deep belly breathing relaxes your muscles and increases blood flow.
Here’s what helped me most:
- Inhale through your nose for 4 seconds
- Hold for 2 seconds
- Exhale completely through your mouth for 6 seconds
Do this before each session to relax your spine, hips, and mind. You’ll feel looser and safer.
Risks, Health Concerns, and Safety Tips
Potential Physical Strain
Autofellatio can put significant strain on your neck, back, and hamstrings. Overdoing it can lead to pulled muscles or even pinched nerves.
To reduce risk:
- Warm up your body thoroughly
- Never bounce or jerk into a stretch
- Support your neck and hips with cushions or blocks
Hygiene and Oral Health Considerations
This is still a form of oral sex. Basic cleanliness is a must.
- Wash thoroughly with warm water before attempting
- Trim pubic hair if needed for comfort/access
- Keep your mouth healthy – excellent dental hygiene matters
If you’re uncircumcised or prone to infections, consult with a doctor about additional cleaning techniques or guidelines just to be safe.
Psychological and Emotional Aspects
Body Positivity and Self-Acceptance
This journey is about more than just technique. It’s about falling in love with your body’s unique sexuality.
If you’re in a bigger body, don’t write yourself off. If you’re not “flexible,” that doesn’t mean you’re not sexy. Success isn’t defined by completion – it’s defined by curiosity, connection, and kindness toward yourself.
Handling Frustration or Inability
Let me tell you something: even after months of stretching, I personally never achieved a full self-blowjob. And that’s okay.
But what I did achieve was a radically new intimacy with my body, deeper flexibility, and a satisfying solo pleasure practice that made everything – including partnered sex – even hotter.
Alternatives for Solo Oral Play and Pleasure
Sex Toys and Substitutes
If autofellatio isn’t physically possible, or you just want something different, there are amazing tools that mimic the sensation or deepen your self-play:
- Suction strokers – like the Tenga Flip Hole or Autoblow A.I., designed to replicate oral warmth and rhythm
- Double-ended strokers – offer tongue-like textures when lubed and compressed
- Hands-free mounts or pillows – let you relax and let the toy do the work
Fantasy Exploration and Mental Arousal
Don’t underestimate the power of fantasy. Visualization, erotic hypnosis, or even watching POV videos of autofellatio can create powerful arousal even if you never physically do it.
Some of my most intense orgasms came from blending fantasy and touch – no acrobatics required.
Final Thoughts: Respecting Your Body and Expectations
Here’s the deal: whether or not you succeed in actually figuring out how to give yourself a blowjob, pursuing it is still deeply worthy.
You’ve started a journey toward body confidence, radical sexual self-care, and curiosity few people ever get brave enough to explore.
So be proud. Stretch slow. Laugh when it gets awkward. And remember: pleasuring your body, in whatever form it takes, is a celebration. You deserve that joy.
