Let me just say this straight out: finding the best FTM sex toys changed the way I saw myself during and beyond intimacy. As a transmasc person, I know how exhausting it can be to search through toys that aren’t made with our bodies, our dysphoria, or our desires in mind. I spent years settling. Settling for toys that kinda worked, kinda fit, kinda helped. Then I discovered toys made *for us* – and everything shifted.
If you’ve ever felt left out of the sex toy industry, I see you. The good news? That’s changing fast. In 2025, we’re seeing more inclusive, affirming, and accessible FTM sex toys than ever before. And I’m here to help you sort through the noise. Whether you’re gearing up for solo pleasure, exploring new intimacy with a partner, or simply wanting to feel more at home in your body – this guide is your safe space to explore the best toys made for FTM folks. Let’s dive in.
Understanding FTM Sexual Wellness
Unique Needs of FTM Individuals
Our needs aren’t niche – they’re just often overlooked. Transitioning can bring changes to sensation, anatomy, and personal comfort. Testosterone might increase sensitivity or reshape the clitoris into something closer to a small phallus. Some folks might have bottom growth, others might have had top surgery. What that means is…a one-size-fits-all product? Yeah, that just won’t cut it.
We need toys that support our unique bodies and how we actually experience pleasure. That might mean smaller pleasure sleeves for bottom growth, packers that move with our hips, or strap-ons designed for folks AFAB (assigned female at birth). This isn’t about conforming – it’s about claiming your right to feel good.
Gender Affirmation and Sexual Confidence
Let’s be real: pleasure is political, and when you’re trans, it can be intensely emotional too. Using a toy that affirms your gender – that feels like it was made with you in mind – can be a game-changer. It’s not just about orgasms (though, yes please). It’s about feeling seen in your skin, confident in the moment, and powerful in your identity.
Buying your first body-affirming toy isn’t “just a purchase” – it’s self-care, it’s radical joy, it’s you saying: I deserve to feel amazing.Types of FTM Sex Toys
STPs (Stand-to-Pee Devices)
These are fantastic for everyday gender euphoria. STPs (stand-to-pee devices) allow you to urinate standing up, which can be deeply affirming if you experience dysphoria around peeing sitting down. Some STPs also double as soft packers or even play devices (like the Banana Prosthetics JOY or the Transthetics EZP).
Packers & Pack and Play Toys
Packers are soft, realistic-feeling dildos or prosthetics worn in your pants to simulate a bulge. Some are just for packing, while others can be used for penetration too (usually called “Pack and Play”). Great beginner options include the Mr. Limpy or New York Toy Collective’s Shilo if you’re looking to pack and play with one toy.
Strap-Ons for FTM Bodies
Strap-on harnesses can be hard to fit if you’re working with a smaller waist, larger thighs, or post-op scars. I recommend underwear-style harnesses like SpareParts Tomboi, which offer comfort, body security, and quick on-off flexibility. If you want something that works with stimulation too, check out the gender-free Hot Octopuss Strapless Dildo or FTM-focused options like Transthetics Reach.
Vibrators & Masturbation Sleeves
Bottom growth needs toys that respond to unique sensitivity. Many standard vibrators are too large or miss the target. I swear by smaller bullet vibes like the We-Vibe Tango or LELO Sona Cruise for external stimulation. For masturbation sleeves, the Kiss-X by Transthetics is revolutionary for trans men with smaller clitoral shafts or bottom growth.
Double-Ended & Solo Play Toys
Want to feel more connected during partner play? Double-ended toys like the Fuse by OhMiBod sync with app-based controls and can be especially great for long-distance relationships too. For solo pleasure, toys that fit comfortably around your anatomy without causing dysphoria (like the Buck-Off sleeve + bullet vibe) make all the difference.
Top Recommended FTM Sex Toys in 2025
Best for Solo Pleasure
- FTMKissX Sleeve by Transthetics – Designed specifically for transmasc anatomy, ideal for stimulating bottom growth or created phallus. Soft, suctioned pleasure in a toy that finally gets it right.
- LELO Sona Cruise – Sonic wave stimulation meets clit-sucking tech that works beautifully on bottom growth. One of my personal faves.
- Vim Pocket Vibe by Dame – Quiet, precise, and designed with body-friendly angles that work great for plus-size folks too.
Best for Partnered Use
- NYTC Shilo + Tomboi Harness Combo – Realistic, soft silicone paired with a secure, comfy harness. Wearable anywhere, affirming in every position.
- Strapless Dildo by Hot Octopuss – Harness-free and designed for bodies assigned female at birth. Gives you penetrative control without strapping in.
- Reach by Transthetics – Part STP, part play device. Partner-friendly for oral, hand, or penetrative play and packs well too.
Best Gender-Affirming Packers
- Mr. Limpy (Small) – Affordable, soft, and comfortable for daily wear. Great beginner option.
- Archer by New York Toy Collective – Dual-use for packing and play. Ultra-realistic silicone feels incredible and holds up over time.
- Banna Prosthetics JOY – A favorite among trans guys looking for function and form. Lightweight and wearable all day.
Most Discreet & Travel-Friendly Options
- KissX Soft Sleeve – Easy to clean, compact, and nonsuspicious in your travel bag.
- We-Vibe Touch X – Quiet, palm-sized, rechargeable, perfect for hotel stays or shared apartments.
- Packer Gear Boxer Brief Harness – Looks like regular underwear, acts like a harness. Great for flying under the radar while feeling sexy.
How to Choose the Right Toy for You
Body Compatibility & Comfort
Start with your anatomy today, not what it “should” be. Some toys will work great on larger bottom growth, others suit flatter chests or microphallus. Experiment and listen to your body. It’s not about size – it’s about sensation.
Material Safety & Quality
Non-porous silicone is your best friend. Avoid jelly-like materials, which can degrade over time and harbor bacteria. Brands like NYTC, Transthetics, and Tantus use medical-grade silicone that lasts and keeps you safe.
Functionality: Vibration, Flexibility & Realism
If a toy looks great but doesn’t *feel* great, it’s not right for you. Look for multiple vibration modes, flexible shafts, or suction-based pleasure. Realism is only empowering when it aligns with how *you* see your body. Use what makes you feel sexy – realism optional.
Ease of Use & Maintenance
Look for toys you can clean easily, charge discreetly, and store comfortably. Storage bags and antimicrobial toy cleaners help extend toy life and simplify routines.
Tips for a Confident, Enjoyable Experience
Communicating with Partners
Before you play, talk it through. Explain what toys help you feel safe and affirmed. Ask for feedback. The right partner will want you to feel hot, confident, and in control of your experience.
Exploring Your Pleasure at Your Own Pace
There’s no rush to figure it all out. Your body evolves – and so can your preferences. Try new sensations. Journal your responses. Give yourself full permission to discover pleasure on your own terms.
Combining Toys with Gender-Affirming Products
Pairing packing devices with the right underwear or harness, or layering in skincare/binding/nude-wear that aligns with your gender expression? That’s real magic. These elements amplify pleasure by helping you show up as the most comfortable, affirmed version of you.
Where to Buy FTM Sex Toys Safely
Trusted LGBTQ+ Friendly Retailers
- Enby – Gender-affirming toys with inclusive descriptions and filters.
- Early to Bed – Run by queer folks, for queer folks. Incredible customer service and education content.
- The Tool Shed – Offers body-safe, inclusive toys with options specifically tagged for trans and nonbinary users.
Discreet Shipping & Inclusive Customer Support
Look for shops offering neutral packaging, trans-inclusive language, pronoun-respecting staff, and money-back guarantees if something doesn’t feel right. It’s not just about the toy – it’s about feeling safe buying it.
Final Thoughts on Embracing Your Pleasure Journey
Here’s what I want you to know: your body doesn’t need to be “fixed” to deserve joy. You deserve real, transcendent pleasure right now, as you are. FTM sex toys aren’t just functional – they’re affirming, empowering tools that help you reclaim your sexual space.
I’ve been through the trial and error. The frustration. The tears. But finding the right toy? That first moment when I felt pleasure *and* gender euphoria at the same time? It changed everything.
Now it’s your turn. Go explore, experiment, and most importantly – enjoy.
