Let’s talk about something that completely changed my relationship with sex: flat doggy style.
Now, I know the name sounds a little clinical or even confusing at first, but trust me – this variation on a classic is a game changer, especially for folks like me with curves, joint issues, or anyone craving both comfort and intense pleasure in bed.
Because here’s the truth: I used to struggle with traditional doggy style. The pressure on my knees, the awkward angles, the disconnect – it just wasn’t working for me. And I thought something was wrong with me. (Spoiler alert: there wasn’t.)
Then I discovered flat doggy style. And wow. It’s easier on the body, deeper in sensation, and surprisingly intimate.
If you’ve ever felt like some positions just weren’t built with your body in mind, this guide is for you. Let’s break it all down – comfortably, confidently, and with zero shame.
What Is Flat Doggy Style?
How It Differs from Traditional Doggy Style
Traditional doggy style is done on hands and knees. Flat doggy style, on the other hand, happens flat – you lie completely down on your stomach, hips sunk into the bed, legs extended, and your partner enters from behind.
It removes the stress from wrists, elbows, and knees. And it opens up a new world of pleasure with angles that often hit spots deeper and differently.
Why It’s Gaining Popularity
More people are realizing that sex should feel good – not acrobatic. That’s why flat doggy style is gaining massive popularity, especially in body-diverse, sex-positive spaces.
It’s a win-win: physically accessible and outrageously pleasurable. And unlike many positions where eye contact is rare, this one offers flexibility for that too – more on that below.
Benefits of Flat Doggy Style
Increased Physical Comfort
This position is a lifesaver for those of us with joint pain, larger bodies, chronic fatigue, or just a need for softness.
Lying flat distributes weight evenly across the bed. You’re supported. Stable. And still able to shift and communicate. No perching. No awkward balancing. Just ease.
Deeper Penetration and Angled Stimulation
Because the receiving partner’s hips are lower and legs are together, penetration becomes deeper and more intense – often hitting the G-spot, A-spot, or prostate more effectively depending on how bodies line up.
This angle can seriously amplify sensation, especially if paired with gentle upward thrusts or slight hip positioning tweaks.
Greater Intimacy and Eye Contact Options
Here’s what surprised me most: how connected this position can feel. With your face turned to the side, you can still make eye contact. You can hold hands. Your partner can lean over and whisper in your ear, kiss your neck, or press their chest to your back.
Flat doggy doesn’t have to feel distant. In fact, it can become incredibly tender and close.
Body-Positive Aspects of the Position
This is a position that embraces your body – no matter the size, shape, or flexibility level.
There’s no “right” way your body has to fold or flex. You don’t have to hold yourself up in a way that makes you shaky or self-conscious. You just spread out and relax. That’s the magic. This position gives you permission to be – fully and unapologetically.
How to Try Flat Doggy Style
Step-By-Step Positioning Tips
- Start by lying on your stomach, legs extended behind you.
- If it feels good, slightly bend your knees or keep your legs parted a little.
- Your partner kneels or straddles behind your thighs and enters from the rear.
- You can rest your head to one side, stack your hands under your chin, or even hug a pillow.
- Let your hips sink naturally – don’t clench or position them unnaturally. Trust your weight and the bed.
Best Bed and Surface Setup
A firm but plush mattress is ideal. Too soft, and you’re sinking in without control. Too firm, and it may feel harsh on hips.
Add a couple of squishy pillows under your hips or torso to play with height and angles. Some folks also love using liberator ramps or wedges for extra ergonomic support.
Adjustments for Different Body Types
If you’ve got a fuller midsection like I do, laying fully flat might feel compressing. Try wedging a soft pillow under your chest to ease breathing while keeping hips low.
Larger thighs? Adjust their placement to stay comfortable – parallel or even slightly splayed can work wonders. Remember, there is no wrong way, only your way.
Tips for Enhancing Pleasure
Using Pillows or Props
Don’t underestimate the power of a well-placed pillow. It can lift your hips, support your belly, or create a tilt that sharpens sensation.
Sex wedges, like those from Liberator, are also fantastic for increasing range of thrust without requiring strain.
Incorporating Toys or Hands
This position is perfect for one-handed stimulation. Let your partner reach around for clitoral, nipple, or penile touch. Or bring in your fave toy – I personally love using a wand against my pelvis while in this position. Just wow.
Perfecting Rhythm and Communication
Since deep thrusts can feel more intense in this pose, it’s important to slow it down and sync up. You might find a slower, grinding rhythm is far more satisfying than fast pounding here.
Keep checking in with each other. A quick “Oh yes, right there” or “Maybe a little slower” makes all the difference.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Incorrect Positioning
Lying too flat without support under the hips can sometimes limit movement or sensation. Experiment with angles.
If your back starts aching or the angle feels wrong, pause and adjust. There’s nothing sexy about pushing through pain.
Overlooking Comfort and Consent
Consent isn’t just about saying yes – it’s about checking in. Because even lovely things like flat doggy can change as bodies shift.
Make room for breaks, water, laughter, and adjustments. Respect each other’s pacing – pleasure isn’t a race.
Flat Doggy Style for Every Body
Inclusive Advice for Plus-Size Partners
I’m plus-size myself, so let me be real: this position is such a gift. You don’t have to support your body weight. You don’t have to worry about toppling or balance. Let your delicious body melt into the bed and enjoy being held and penetrated from a secure, grounded place.
If skin-to-skin contact gets extra warm (which is completely normal!), try layering with soft lay-down towels or silk sheets for better glide and breathability.
LGBTQ+ Considerations and Variations
This position is fabulous across gender identities and sexual orientations. Whether using toys, strap-ons, fingers, or body parts, the angle gives amazing control and freedom to adapt.
For trans and non-binary folks especially, lying flat can help alleviate body dysphoria by feeling grounded and less “on display” – while still enjoying deep stimulation.
Communication and Confidence in Bed
How to Suggest Trying This Position
If you’re nervous to bring it up, I always say: lead with curiosity, not critique.
Try: “Hey, I read about this position called flat doggy style, and it sounds like something my body would really love. Would you be down to try it sometime?”
Frame it as something you’re excited about – not as fixing anything, but as an upgrade for both of you.
Maintaining Comfort and Playfulness
Keep things light. If something feels awkward or you need to move, laugh about it. Sex isn’t supposed to be perfect – just pleasurable.
The more at ease you feel with your body and your partner, the hotter the experience becomes. Period.
Safety and Aftercare
Listening to Your Body
If something starts to feel off – physically or emotionally – pause immediately.
Your body is wise. Honor its signals. You can always re-adjust, switch positions, or stop entirely without shame.
Post-Intimacy Care Tips
- Hydrate – because friction and fluids happen!
- Wipe down with a warm washcloth or body wipe to feel refreshed.
- Lie in cuddle mode or spoon for a minute. Emotional closeness matters too.
- Tell your partner what you loved – this builds connection AND future confidence.
And if you’re playing with toys or props, give them a quick clean with sex toy-safe soap and water. Treat your pleasure tools with care – they deserve it.
Final Thoughts
Flat doggy style changed my sex life – and not just physically. It taught me what it means to build sexual experiences around the body I have right now, not who I think I “should” be.
Whether you’re looking for deeper sensation, more comfort, or just something new to explore, I highly recommend giving it a try.
You deserve pleasure that meets you where you are – no apologies, no positions that hurt your knees, just solid, supported, mind-blowing sex.
Got questions or want more body-positive sex advice? Drop a comment or reach out – I’m always here to help you unlock your sexy, one position at a time.
