I’ll be honest with you – when I first heard the phrase “double decker sex position,” my curiosity was instantly piqued. I’ve explored a lot of positions in my journey as a sex educator and body-positive advocate, but this one? It sounded like something straight out of a fantasy, full of opportunity for deep connection, unique physical stimulation, and yes – a bit of sexy adventure.
But here’s the deal: the double decker position isn’t just about being acrobatic or steamy. It’s also a deeply connective, sensual option for couples looking for something new and exciting. And the best part? With a few key tips (which I’m going to walk you through step-by-step) it can be totally adapted to work for different body types, sizes, and ability levels.
If you’ve ever felt left out of mainstream sex advice because of your shape, flexibility, or mobility – I see you. This guide is for you. Let’s demystify the double decker sex position and make it work for every body.
What Is the Double Decker Sex Position?
Overview and Visual Description
So let’s start with the basics: what is the double decker sex position, really?
In short, it’s a stacked, layered position where one partner lies down while the other partner straddles them from behind, creating a “double-decker” effect. Think of it like this: the receiving partner is on their stomach or leaned over a surface, while the penetrating partner lines up from behind, often with elevation under the top partner’s hips or knees to create better alignment.
It’s a deeper penetration position that blends elements of doggy style and missionary, with adjustments that make it unique. The “double decker” name comes from that stacked, sandwich-style alignment of bodies – one on top, one underneath, moving as one.
Where the Name Comes From
The term “double decker” is playful, but reflects the stacked vertical layout of your bodies. Like a double-decker bus or sandwich, you’re layered – one partner lying down, the other entering from above or behind with synchronized rhythm.
It may sound complex, but stick with me. With the right setup, this position can be incredibly hot, super intimate, and way more accessible than it looks.
Why Try the Double Decker Position?
Intimacy and Connection
Despite its heightened angle and stacked layout, the double decker isn’t just about penetration – it’s emotional, too.
Because of the chest-to-back or full-body contact, depending on your positioning, you get that amazing blend of closeness and pressure. It’s perfect for couples who want intensity with intimacy. You can whisper, kiss, grab hands, or simply stay connected throughout the entire experience.
Unique Physical Stimulation
For the receiver, this angle can lead to deep G-spot or prostate stimulation, especially when supported by props like a wedge pillow or sturdy surface elevation. For the giver, it offers controlled thrusting and a visually stimulating vantage point.
Bonus: bent-over positioning in this pose can enhance clitoral or penile sensation with manual or toy stimulation during penetration. And yes, I absolutely recommend including toys – but more on that in a bit.
How to Do the Double Decker Safely
Positioning and Alignment
OK, now let’s get practical. Here’s how I guide couples into the double decker position step-by-step:
- Start with the receiving partner lying face-down on a firm mattress, a sex wedge like the Liberator Ramp, or even the edge of a sturdy couch with their knees slightly bent and hips lifted.
- The penetrating partner aligns from behind, either straddling the lower partner’s legs or kneeling between them. You may need to adjust the angle depending on height difference.
- Pillows under the hips can help raise the pelvis for better access and less strain on the lower back.
- Communication is key – go slow at first and adjust pressure, depth, and tempo together.
Consent, Communication & Trust
This position demands a lot of body trust, especially from the receiving partner who may not be in full control of the movement. Before diving in:
- Talk about boundaries, preferences, and safe words.
- Agree to go slow – this isn’t a race.
- Take breaks to check in, read each other’s cues, and adjust if something feels “off.”
Props and Furniture for Support
This is where the double decker gets fun (and easier for plus-size or mobility-limited partners): props!
- Wedge Pillows: Use firm-angle sex pillows to elevate hips and reduce spinal pressure.
- Sturdy Chairs or Ottomans: These can be used to support the receiver’s knees or arms.
- Adjustable Straps or Harnesses: For deeper control and comfort if needed.
Don’t overlook comfort. The right setup can transform frustration into flow – and better orgasms too.
Body-Positive Tips for All Types of Couples
Adapting for Different Body Sizes and Abilities
This is the part of the guide that matters most to me. The double decker position can be amazing for fat bodies, disabled bodies, tall partners, short partners – all of it. Here’s how:
- If you’re plus-size, use extra pillows for cushioning and elevation. Try the position with knees spread wide for more space.
- If mobility is a challenge, prop up the receiving partner on a raised surface like a bed bench or yoga block setup, allowing more access with less strain.
- If there’s a major height difference, use risers or firm cushions so hips align without awkward bending.
Prioritizing Comfort Over Performance
Repeat after me: slow, sensual, and supportive is sexy. This is not the time to perform. Instead:
- Take your time finding the version of double decker that feels best – lying flat, kneeling, supported by furniture, etc.
- Reassign roles mid-way! Some couples thrive when they switch the givens about who’s “on top.”
- Moaning, laughing, adjusting? It’s all a part of sex. Normalize that with your partner.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Ignoring Physical Limitations
I’ve seen it too often – couples push into this kind of position assuming they need to replicate porn or online diagrams instead of listening to their bodies.
Your body is valid. Be honest about tight hips, sensitive knees, or short arms. There are always accessible alternatives.
Rushing Into Complex Positions
If this is your first time trying an advanced pose like the double decker, don’t skip foreplay. Don’t skip warm-ups. Rushing can cause discomfort, and honestly, anxiety.
Warm up together: stretch, tease, stimulate slowly. The best sex builds, not explodes.
Enhancing the Experience
Toys and Accessories
OK, now to one of my FAVORITE ways to bring major pleasure into the double decker layout: toys.
- Vibrating Bullet or Wand: Perfect for stimulation for the receiving partner’s clit or perineum during thrusting.
- Penis Rings: Provide added stimulation and prolonged erections.
- Anal Plugs: Add a whole new layer of sensation depending on your anatomy and comfort level.
- Suction Toys: Use one on the front of the receiving partner while the second partner penetrates from behind.
Recommended Foreplay Techniques
Before diving into the double decker, I always recommend:
- Full-body massage to relax the muscles and build warmth.
- Oral play from behind while the lower partner is positioned face-down.
- Dirty talk: Tell your partner what you love about their body and exactly what you’re ready for – *consensually*, of course.
FAQs About the Double Decker Sex Position
Is It Suitable for Beginners?
Yes – with the right mindset and setups!
If you’re new to sex positions beyond missionary, start with a “soft double decker”: both partners mostly lying down with lots of pillows and support. Go slow, communicate, and don’t compare yourselves to anyone else.
Can It Be Modified for Same-Sex Couples?
Absolutely. In same-sex or queer pairings, try variations like:
- Strap-on play from behind for vaginal or anal penetration
- Double stimulation using fingers or toys
- One partner straddling with oral or hand stimulation below
The beauty of double decker is its versatility – you define what it looks like in your context.
Final Thoughts on Trying the Double Decker
Here’s what I’ve learned, both from my own experiences and from guiding hundreds of couples: the double decker sex position is much more than a novel name. It’s accessible, customizable, and let’s be honest – incredibly sexy.
With the right setup, mindset, and communication, it can become a go-to favorite for connection and deep pleasure. And best of all, you don’t need a magazine cover body, gymnast flexibility, or Pornhub choreography to rock it.
You just need your body, your partner(s), and a willingness to explore. You’ve got this.
