Let’s get real: the doggy style position is one of the most talked-about sex positions out there… but not always with the full picture. I’m here to tell you, as someone who’s explored it from every angle (literally and figuratively), doggy style isn’t just for porn scenes or flexible gym bunnies. It’s a deeply pleasurable, totally modifiable, and wildly empowering position for any body — yes, including yours.
I know the worries: “Will this angle hurt my back?” “Am I sticking my butt out the ‘right’ way?” “Is this only enjoyable if I look like an Instagram model?” I’ve been there. I’ve had the awkward moments, the uncomfortable positioning, and the questions no one seemed to answer.
So I did what I do best: I got curious, I experimented (safely), and I figured out how to make doggy style seriously hot, deeply connected, and super comfortable for all body types. Let me show you how.
What Is the Doggy Style Position?
Basic Description and Popularity
At its core, the doggy style position involves one partner kneeling or leaning forward on hands and knees (or elbows), while the other enters from behind. It’s named for its similarity to how many animals mate — but don’t let that turn you off. The reality is that this position can be elegant, primal, or playful, depending on how you use it.
It’s wildly popular for a reason: it offers intense physical sensations and a fresh take on connection that many other positions don’t. It’s also incredibly versatile and can be adapted for standing, lying down, or supported by furniture.
Why People Enjoy It
People love the doggy style position because it often allows for deeper penetration, a feeling of surrender or power (depending on your role), and a wildly erotic angle for G-spot or P-spot stimulation. There’s also an aesthetic pleasure — you get to enjoy every curve and movement in a way that can boost confidence on both sides.
And yes, for many, it just plain feels amazing. But only if it’s done with intention and care — which is where I come in.
Benefits of Doggy Style for Pleasure and Connection
Deep Penetration and Physical Stimulation
One of my favorite things about this position is the way it allows your bodies to align for deeper stimulation. For people with vulvas, doggy style can hit the G-spot more directly than mission-style positions. For people with prostates, the angle can open up access like nothing else.
But here’s the deal: just because it can go deep doesn’t mean it should. Not every body wants or enjoys maximum penetration. That’s why comfort and communication matter so much — we’ll get to that shortly.
Enhanced Intimacy and Eye Contact Variations
Contrary to popular belief, doggy style isn’t always “detached” or impersonal. You can absolutely make it intimate — by holding hands, playing with each other’s bodies, or even using mirrors for eye contact. If the receiving partner rests their chest flat with their head turned toward their partner, connection and communication are still front and center.
Or maybe you love the primal, raw energy of it. That’s valid too. Doggy style can feel incredibly empowering when you own that space.
Comfort and Technique Tips for All Body Types
Finding Comfortable Positions
Okay, let’s get inclusive. If you’ve got belly rolls, stiff knees, or mobility considerations, you might’ve felt left out of the doggy style dialogue. Unacceptable. Here’s what works in real life:
- Kneel on a soft surface like a yoga mat or bed — relieve pressure on your joints.
- Instead of hands and knees, try resting on forearms and knees to ease shoulder tension.
- Turn your knees out wider for more pelvic control and stability.
There is no “right” way to do this. You get to decide what feels best for your unique body.
Using Pillows or Furniture for Support
I swear by wedge pillows. Place one under the receiving partner’s hips to lift and angle the pelvis just right, especially if lower back pain or hip stiffness is an issue.
Want to avoid wrist fatigue? Use a sturdy ottoman, couch edge, or even the end of your bed instead of your hands and knees. Your furniture can absolutely participate in your pleasure journey.
Communication and Consent
Discussing Preferences and Boundaries
This isn’t just about technique — it’s about trust. Talking about what feels good, what doesn’t, and what you’re open to trying makes everything better.
I like to offer phrases like: “Can we slow down and play with the angle?” or “I’d feel more comfortable if we added a pillow under me.” It keeps things collaborative, not critical.
Body Confidence and Feeling Empowered
Yes, doggy style exposes your backside, but that doesn’t mean you’re on display for judgment. It’s a position of incredible vulnerability — and power.
Let me tell you, when I stopped worrying about how I looked and focused on how I felt, everything shifted. Confidence isn’t about having the “perfect” body. It’s about knowing your body deserves pleasure, exactly as it is, in this moment.
Fun Variations to Explore
Standing and Elevated Versions
If you’re feeling curious (or craving a change), try these:
- Standing Doggy: The receiving partner leans on a wall, counter, or tall surface. Great for spontaneous sessions or mobility needs.
- Flat Doggy: Lie face-down and add a pillow under the hips for comfort and deeper access.
- Chair Doggy: Use a sturdy chair with the receiving partner resting forward. This works beautifully for folks who need stability and height adjustments.
Using Toys and Props Safely
Spice it up with butt plugs, vibrators, or wearable toys — just make sure you use plenty of lube and communicate throughout. One of my favorites? A remote-controlled bullet vibe between the thighs during penetration. Game-changer.
Props like sex slings, foam blocks, or positioning straps can add comfort and variety, especially if you’re exploring advanced angles or accessibility enhancements.
Common Myths and Safety Tips
Dispelling Misconceptions
Let’s bust a few myths I hear way too often:
- Myth: Doggy style is inherently degrading. Truth: It’s what you make it. Sensual, sweet, or dominant — you control the energy.
- Myth: Only thin/flexible people can do it. Truth: Total nonsense. There are countless variations that work for ANY body.
- Myth: You have to go deep or fast. Truth: Slow, shallow thrusts can be just as pleasurable, if not more.
Preventing Discomfort or Injury
Always warm up with foreplay and engage your core if you’re the penetrating partner. For the receiving partner, come forward as needed to control depth and reduce pressure on your hips or lower back.
Use generous amounts of lube — don’t be shy. Water-based is great for most people, but silicone-based lasts longer if there’s a lot of friction involved.
Final Thoughts on Confidence and Exploration
If you take one thing from me, let it be this: the doggy style position isn’t out of reach. It’s a powerful, playful, deeply satisfying way to experience connection — but only if you let it work for your body, not against it.
Explore. Take your time. Laugh if it gets weird. And remember, your pleasure doesn’t depend on how you look — it grows from how you feel when you prioritize yourself.
Now, go take that position and make it yours.
