Let’s be real for a second: sex positions can be equal parts thrilling and intimidating, especially when you’re exploring something new like the 68 sex position. I’ve been there. I remember scrolling late at night, curious, maybe a little unsure, reading keywords I’d never heard before and wondering if they were just for “those kinds of bodies.” But here’s the truth I need you to hear: the 68 position is not just for acrobats or porn stars. It can be deeply intimate, fun, and totally customizable for every body.
This guide is my love letter to curious-minded babes like you who want to explore your pleasure your way. Whether you’re plus-size, flexible, less flexible, new to oral, or already experimenting — I’ve got you covered, start to finish. So let’s break down the ins, outs, and juicy details of the 68 sex position… together.
What Is the 68 Sex Position?
The 68 position is an oral sex variation that flips the script on the well-known 69. Instead of both partners giving and receiving at once, only one person is being pleasured. Meaning: one partner lies and enjoys, while the other partner is positioned on top facing downward to give oral pleasure.
It’s hot, focused, and filled with connection while putting one person’s pleasure front and center.
Difference Between 68 and 69 Positions
Here’s the deal:
- 69 position: Both partners perform oral sex simultaneously.
- 68 position: One partner gives oral while the other purely receives.
Sometimes multitasking during 69 can get a little complicated. The 68 removes that pressure and becomes about one person giving, one person gloriously receiving. And sometimes, that focused pleasure dynamic is exactly what your body and your connection need.
Why People Explore the 68 Position
Honestly? Because it feels damn good.
Here’s why many couples fall in love with 68:
- One partner can completely surrender to pleasure.
- It brings deeper emotional intimacy and trust.
- It’s great for partners who love giving oral – especially when it’s the only task.
- Perfect for people with sensory sensitivities or attention preferences during sex.
How to Do the 68 Sex Position
Step-by-Step Guide
Ready to try it out? Here’s exactly how to get into the 68 position:
- The receiving partner lies comfortably on their back, head supported with a pillow.
- The giving partner straddles them, facing down toward their genitals – butt toward the receiver’s head. They can kneel or crouch depending on comfort.
- The giver leans forward and performs oral sex. The receiver relaxes, maybe grabs their thighs or hips, or just decompresses into the experience.
That’s it. Slow it down. Use hands. Use toys if you want. Make it yours.
Who Should Be on Top?
Whoever feels more supported, comfortable, and stable in the top straddle position should take that role.
For bigger bodies, it may feel easier to be the receiver on the bottom. But it depends on joint sensitivity, flexibility, and confidence. If you’re on the heavier side, don’t feel limited – props and furniture can totally change the game (more on that soon).
Benefits of the 68 Position
Enhanced Emotional Connection
There’s something incredibly vulnerable about handing over control of your pleasure. As a receiver, you’re fully being taken care of. As the giver, you get to tune into your partner’s needs without any distractions or pressure to “perform” at the same time.
It’s about devotion, and that can be sexy as hell.
Mutual Stimulation
Technically only one of you is receiving, but don’t underestimate how arousing it is to give pleasure. I know many partners who get ultra turned-on just from the act of giving oral – moans, wetness, movements – it’s all part of the dance.
Tip: The receiver can still give hands or kisses from below, if desired.
Tips for Comfort and Confidence
Best Positions for Different Body Types
This is where I get passionate:
Every body – thick thighs, soft bellies, mobility limits, post-op scars – deserves pleasure without question. The 68 position can absolutely be modified to serve your physical needs.
- Plus-size bodies: Use a yoga bolster under your back to lift your hips and let the giver access more easily without pressure on neck or arms.
- Limited flexibility: Let the top partner kneel by the side of the receiver’s legs instead of straddling directly.
- Neck/back support: Prop your head and shoulders with pillows or an adjustable sex wedge for angle support.
Using Pillows and Props
Game-changing. Truly.
- Use a Liberator wedge to elevate the receiver’s pelvis and give the top partner better leverage.
- A cushy sex pillow behind the top partner’s knees makes long holds easier.
- Blankets under the knees can prevent soreness on hard surfaces.
Your comfort = your confidence. Never hesitate to fully prep your space for pleasure.
Communication and Consent
This is non-negotiable: talk first.
Before trying the 68, check in with your partner. Ask them how they feel about the receiver/giver roles. Any boundaries? Any areas they’re uncomfortable with? This is especially important for people who’ve been socialized to prioritize giving over receiving. You deserve to relax into this.
Consent doesn’t take the heat away – it turns it up.
Common Challenges and How to Overcome Them
Physical Discomfort and Adjustments
Things to watch for:
- Neck strain: Keep your neck aligned and don’t overextend. Givers should pause and switch positions if needed.
- Breathing room: If you’re on the bottom and feeling buried, speak up. Adjust hips, angle legs out, or guide how deep is comfortable.
- Fatigue: Set a timer or give yourself permission to change things up when it stops feeling good.
Dealing with Imbalance in Pleasure
If you notice one person enjoying more than the other over time, pause and recalibrate. Maybe it becomes your night, then their turn next time. Or maybe you combine 68 and 69 – start with giving, then switch to a mutual session.
There’s no rulebook. Pleasure is a conversation, not a checklist.
Is 68 Right for You?
Compatibility Considerations
Let’s be honest: the 68 isn’t for every single couple. If one of you strongly prefers mutual give-and-take or if “being on top” (even orally) feels exhausting or triggering, don’t force it.
It works best for couples who communicate openly, are into oral, and are excited to explore unequal power in a loving way.
Trying It for the First Time
Set the mood. Light candles. Put on that playlist. Make it feel special. I recommend keeping the first session short with lots of verbal encouragement. Afterwards, debrief! What worked? What didn’t?
Allow room for laughs, awkward wiggles, and “okay let’s shuffle this way” moments. That’s part of the heat, I promise.
Safety and Hygiene Tips
Oral Health and Safe Practices
Get comfy with basics like:
- Brushing teeth and rinsing your mouth beforehand
- Using barriers like dental dams if desired
- Urinating afterward to reduce UTI risk
Safety doesn’t kill the vibe. If anything, it shows real care and builds trust, which makes everything hotter.
When to Pause or Adjust
Pay attention to physical cues: if your jaw is cramping, your partner starts to shift uncomfortably, or the emotional energy feels “off,” take a break. Water, cuddles, rest – then resume or change it up.
Your pleasure is important. So is your emotional and physical well-being.
Final Thoughts on Enhancing Intimacy with the 68 Position
Here’s what I’ve found, both personally and as a sex educator:
The 68 sex position is a powerful way to create a moment. One filled with presence, trust, arousal, and pure focus on giving and receiving.
If you’ve ever felt like you had to “do more to be sexy,” this is the wink from the universe saying: no, baby. You just have to receive. And that’s enough.
So go ahead. Talk about it with your partner. Try it out. Laugh through the awkward angles. Revel in the new sensations. And always, always remember: sex is for every body. Including yours.
